Im Helping My Daughter Avoid The 5 Insecurities That Plagued Me Most Heres How

Im Helping My Daughter Avoid The 5 Insecurities That Plagued Me Most Heres How My daughter and I are both only children and Capricorns. You can imagine the fights we have. On the otzu sichbei hand, I also know how she feels preparing for the next chapter in zu sich life as she graduates college and begins zu sich first big girl job. Ive spent 22 years trying to prevent her from having the same insecurities I had when I began adulting.Here are the five insecurities that plagued me as a younger woman and how Im making sure she doesnt harbor them.1. Im not brave enough to leave my comfort zone. So many things are out of our control. The weather Tornado warnings terrify me. Driving What if I get lost? Traveling Am I an easy target? All of these are really just fears of the unknown. When my daughter says she wants to get out of her comfort zone, I fight my natural instinct to protect her. I usually advise her to do the opposite of what I would do in her shoes. Consequently, she welches a member of her universitys power lifting team, and went to China.2. Im not perfect.My daughter and I are both perfectionists. We have great expectations of ourselves, which is ok. But we also have great expectations of others, which is not so okay. In high school, my daughter was a junior Olympic volleyball player. We spent hours in our front yard practicing her overhand serve. It paid off. She became an award-winning libero. But this also meant she got frustrated with teammates who didnt work as hard as she did. I taught her to not only ignore what her teammates are doing, but also to identify when shes achieved a state of good enough. For example, you dont have to practice until your hands are bruised to have a good overhand serve.3. People will break my heart. Everyone gets their heart broken, and finds it hard to trust again. But no one wants to be alone. How do you get over once bitten, twice shy?I encourage my daughter to learn from her mistakes (Remember what made the last g uy a frog? Look for that behavior in the person you are attracted to). Then, I remind her to communicate (I feel X when you behave Y. Is that intentional?). I caution her to not settle for anyone she feels she cant trust4. Ill turn into my mom. I didnt want to be a nurse, because my mom was. My daughter didnt want to work in Communication, because I did. This led my daughter to a college major that simply wasnt the best fit for her. Her sophomore year, we had a difficult conversation about changing her major. My husband and I asked her to consider the things she did for free, because those are the things she obviously enjoys. Isnt there a major that would help her get a degree in that? It turned out to be Communication, and shes found her calling. I assure her she wont turn into me, because todays world is very different than the one I navigated and her life choices are completely different than the ones I made.5. Ill fail.When I entered the workforce, I often felt I was not good en ough, the assignments were too big, and the system was rigged against me. These were convenient excuses to use when I failed. When my daughter didnt reisepass her drivers license test, it was the first time in her life she had an epic fail but it wont be her last. I asked her what she intended to do. I asked Will you wallow in self-pity? Or will you get up, work harder, then go try again? She wallowed in the car. But by the time we got home, she was ready to correct her mistakes and retake the test. She passed with flying colors the second time, and now has a great story to tell in job interviews.My daughter has insecurities of her own. Ive given her tools to overcome them, and I am confident she will be successful.